I believe that our own early relationship histories play out in our intimate relationships. Our desires and hopes of what our partner will fulfill, drive our relationships. We all want to be loved for who we are and find a intimate companion to share our life with. But long term relationships are complex, not only the rate in which each person changes and grows but also in weathering life's transitions, stressors and struggles. Long term relationship are about learning to love and respect one another with our imperfections.
When we experience disconnection in our intimate relationship we often experienced this in a similar way to our earlier historical relationships. In this space of disconnection there are multiple ways of coping such as avoidance, blame, mistrust, personal insecurity, distress, anger and so on.
As a trained couple therapist I help untangle with you some of the dynamics in your relationship and personal experience, taking into account ones early relational history. Practical strategies to make changes are incorporated to encourage honest, direct communication to facilitate closeness and for connection to be sustained.
I usually meet you as a couple first and might have separate sessions for each partner to better understand your early relational history and perceptions of the current relational difficulties.